Today I'm thinking a lot of my blog. It has been a bit neglected since I have the sweetest 12 week old that I'm trying to soak up. Mr. Jude keeps me busy so my posts will be sparatic. I'd like to post about my experiences in the hospital the month after Jude was born as well as his first couple months of life. Then I hope to update at least every month but hopefully more.
Jude went home one day after I was discharged. I was feeling great after my c-section and they wanted to monitor his weight for one extra day. We were so excited to come home. I still remember walking in the front door.. it felt so surreal. I always imagined the moment we would bring our first baby home. We weren't sure what to do first so we put him in the new swing we bought him. At only 5lbs 7 oz, he was very tiny and as he swung back and forth we couldn't help but think it almost looked like he was going to fly out of it. So that was the end of that.
I remember being so nervous for Jude's first night at home, but he did unbelievably well. It was ME who made the first night rough. I was suddenly feeling awful. I had unbelievably bad stomach pain and a bad chest pain that made it so that I could not sleep lying down. I had to sleep propped up with about four pillows. I thought that this was your regular ol' c-section pain and didn't think too much of it.
The next day the public health nurse came to see us and was very happy that Jude had gained a couple of ounces. He didn't lose a lot of his original weight, which was great. I mentioned to her the way I had been feeling the night before and she said it was probably normal but if I felt it getting worse I should go into outpatients. We decided to have some friends over and I felt worse and worse. Around suppertime, I was in so much pain that I couldn't sit, stand or walk without crying out. I was a mess. We left Jude with my parents and went to the hospital. I limped into the hospital and was met by a commissionaire who asked me if I'd like a wheelchair. Embarrassed, I said no... but I probably should have given in.
We were admitted right away since my white blood cell count was elevated which indicated there could be an infection. A doctor tried to feel my stomach but I pushed him away in pain. There were also speculations that I could be constipated or that my gallbladder could be acting up which is apparently very common after having a c-section.
That night, my pain got worse and worse. While the nurses and doctor continued to speculate, my main concern was feeding my boy. We had a bit of a rough start with breastfeeding since Jude was so tiny and didn't have much energy. We had finally started to get the hang of things and I didn't want to have to give him formula. I inquired about being put on Dilauded and Morphine, but apparently there aren't many medications that aren't safe while breastfeeding. This is something we would learn a lot more about over the course of the next few weeks.
The next day, I didn't improve much. I started to get a pretty bad fever which worried the nurses. Rob started to get more and more concerned and then the doctors started filing in. We had doctors in from different areas and specialities, all working together to try and find what was wrong. They figured I had an infection from the c-section since my white blood cell count was still elevated and my fever was high. My incision looked great, so this was doubtful to be the source of the infection. What was the source? We never really found out.
They treated me with IV antibiotics over the course of a few days since this would kill an infection if this was the problem. During this time, I continued to nurse Jude although it wasn't easy with the amount of pain I was in. I remember a nurse asking me to rate my pain on a scale of 1 to 10 and I told her I'd rather go through labor ten more times. I felt like I was being dramatic but it was the only way I could describe how I felt.
After almost a week in the hospital I was given a very difficult decision to make. I was told I could stay another week and a half to continue doing IV treatments or we could finally go home and I could start oral antibiotics, which would likely mean I would have to feed Jude formula for a week because of the change of medication. The OB who performed my surgery said it was likely that he wouldn't have problems returning to breastfeeding, but after a week off the breast, this was always a possibility. Thankfully, we found out later the next day that the new medications were fine to take while breastfeeding and we were able to continue.
Some people might think that this wouldn't have been a big deal and before Jude was born I would have said the same thing. I wasn't overly worried things. I figured if it didn't work out that I wouldn't have any issue with that and it wouldn't be the end of the world to me. We could formula feed no problem. After all, I was a formula fed baby and I turned out fine. I started to feel more passionate about breastfeeding as soon as Jude was born and worked hard to fight for our nursing relationship. I didn't know why at the time. I knew this was how I felt and I couldn't give a reason.
I started to think about it more after the fact and realized that because I missed out on a stress free pregnancy and the experience of a natural birth, I guess my hormonal self didn't want the next thing taken away. Jude had no problem latching but didn't have the energy to keep feeding for more than a few seconds. When we had our first real successful feeding session, lasting all of 15 minutes, I knew what all this fuss was about. I felt so incredibly bonded with my son and didn't want to lose this. As challenging as breastfeeding has proven to be for us, it gets easier and more rewarding with each day.
So we went home. We were able to continue to breastfeed. I was so happy to FINALLY be going home for good. It's so tough to stay in the hospital for any length of time after having a baby.. it made me appreciate and emphasize with those having to stay in there with their new babies for months on end.
Unfortunately though, we were only home for a few days when my chest pains returned and started to worsen. I once again had to sleep propped up with pillows and was having a very hard time breathing even during the day. I remember nursing with tears streaming down my cheeks. Night times were awful since I could barely sit up in bed without yelling out in pain. I felt like I wasn't a good mother because I needed so much help to care for my child. Rob tried to convince me we needed to go back to the hospital but that was the last thing I wanted. I wanted to be home as a family.
I tried to toughen it out but knew that I wasn't getting better. So at midnight on a Sunday (It seemed we were always being admitted Sundays) we headed into the hospital and I was admitted for a third time. I cried a lot. I might have been a bit rude to a nurse in outpatients who suggested my baby and husband might need to stay home this time. I was once again having to defend my nursing relationship with Jude. I was feeling sick and exhausted. Rob and I were running on 24 hours with no sleep since he had been in a golf tournament and we had been up early the previous morning.
It turns out I had pneumonia at one point that caused a buildup of fluid around my right lung. This explained my difficulty breathing. The next day it was decided that I would need a chest tube to drain the fluid off my lung. I won't go into detail about this experience but I found the experience of labor easier than getting a chest tube. Maybe I'm just a big baby though. It hurt. A lot. I'm so lucky to have the family and husband that I do... My in-laws brought us hugs and food. My parents and sister came to give us support. My mom and husband sat by my side as I cursed and cried out loudly when I realized I couldn't move without being in a huge amount of pain (after the chest tube insertion). My brother was worried about me from out of province. I'm really blessed and although I didn't voice it as loudly as I should of, I felt this throughout our two week (in and out) hospital stay.
During our extended hospital stay, Jude was the perfect baby. He ate, slept and smiled. He cuddled. He would wait for us to leave for good before he would test us in any way... but more on that later :)
One last thing I'd like to mention are the amazing nurses at the QEH. I can't imagine I was always the easiest patient, but they were all amazing. Some gave tough love, others sat by my bedside to listen to my worries. They would bring blankets and medication, answer our questions and calm our fears. They helped care for Jude even though he wasn't technically a patient anymore. They were our saviours.
Finally, I was discharged for a third time. This third time I wasn't excited. I was scared to go home , thinking I would only end up back in. I felt like I would never fully feel like myself again, since my breathing was still laboured and I felt like it was a chore to move. I was told it would take time... maybe a month to feel like myself again.
Finally, I feel 100% better. I still have numbness in my incision site, my lower back from the spinal tap and on my right side from the chest tube. I have my scars, but they make me who I am today. I might be a bit more marked up on the inside and out, but I have one hell of a beautiful baby as my prize.
These next pictures aren't pretty because they show how awful I looked during this period of time.. I was swollen from the fluids and as white as a ghost. I still love them because they're real. I prefer not to sugar coat the whole experience..